The thing about parenting is that when you are in the thick of it
you don't know which moments are the important ones.
You don't know till later, how special that particular time will be.
It might seem like you are going through a hard time,
but actually it might be about to get way worse.
You look back and wish you had known that.
Or you look back to a time
and realise that some things did get better.
It might make you sad what happened then, but eventually the pain goes away.
But when you are in the thick of it, it's impossible to know what way its going to go.
Our kids are works in progress, we are works in progress,
our families are a work in progress. It's all happening in real time,
sometimes its hard to keep up with which way is up.
The trick is to be intentional about the good times,
to stop in that moment when it's good, and stop worrying about what's next,
and take in a deep breathe and acknowledge, this is good.
The same when you are deeply deeply disappointed and your heart breaks,
you have to stop in the moment, dry your tears,
take a deep breath and say...
THIS TOO WILL PASS.
It's a process happening in real time,
we haven't seen the end yet,
we can't look back because we are in it.
This is what parenting teens is all about.