Friday, February 17, 2017

The ex is getting married...

In a few short weeks David and Rhonda are getting married. The younger children are really excited and they have been telling me lots of little details that have been organised. It sounds like it is going to be a really nice celebration of their new beginning. I'm so stoked for them all, I really hope that they are going to be happy together. I mean, obviously there is part of me that wants to tell Rhonda to run, run for the hills while she still can (lol), but the other part of me, really really hopes that they are crazy in love with each other and that they will be happy for the rest of their lives together.

I really don't know why people think I will be upset about this. It is no secret that I am the one who left, I tapped out, called it quits... however you wanted to call it. I knew that I could no longer love David the way he deserved to be loved, and I really did pray that he would find someone who did love him in that way.

The really good part about David getting married is that Rhonda is really good with the kids. I feel heaps better about them going to their dads when I know that Rhonda is there. She is organised and tidy and she cooks dinners the kids like. She knows about things like kids needing sleep, warm clothes and the little things that sometimes dad forgets.

The first time I realised how good, was when Annie was going to her cousins wedding. I had found a pretty dress for her, but Rhonda took her and got some stockings that matched. She looked so much better. I knew then, that having another person was going to be good for Annie. I'm a bit rough around the edges, and I think Rhonda will be really good for her. She is reading The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe to her, and she tells Annie stories about when she was little. 

I'm not going to lie, I'm thinking the day that they get married will be a bit hard, but the good is far more than anything that makes me sad. I'm grateful that the children's dad has someone who keep an eye on and I'm grateful for a truly good influence in Rhonda. 

And as for me, I've built a secure and happy home for us, I have a job that I love and some really amazing friends. Don't feel sorry for me. I'm good and the kids are too. I think this has turned out for the best for all of us. I have hopes for the future for us all.


  1. Well said and so nicely. It speaks volumes about how decent you are as a human being. And hope. Well that's a crucial element in surviving a seemingly hopeless world. Hope is the one cloak we all need to don in a morning each and every day. one day at a time. Bless your insightful self Ms Debs

  2. I'm glad that David has found another good woman and that she is so good with your kids. Wishing you good things, Deb, though it sounds like you have many blessings already!

  3. I think that this says way more about who you are than who she is. You are a good soul, Deb.

  4. You guys are living proof that divorce doesn't have to be messy, it will be emotional there's no way around that but it is possible to still remain friendly. That is good to see.
    My best wishes to them for a happy marriage and to yourself that you will have a good life in the way that you want too.

  5. Such Grace, always such Grace Deb - we have a lot to learn from you x


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