Friday, May 24, 2019

Parenting, hard times and still fighting to move forward

I don't know if it is because time has passed and we have settled into our role parenting apart, 
or if it is the season we are in, but I have noticed that it has become easier to have a working relationship wth the children's dad. For a long time, it was hard work to make things work and often harsh words were said that I regretted later.

{We are human after all and there are reasons why we aren't married to each other any more!!}

Currently we are working through probably the toughest patch in our parenting story,
and it is fortunate that this easing of things has coincided with having to work together
to make truly difficult decisions. 

I'm also finding myself increasingly grateful for all the things that Annie's dad and step-mum
do with her. They take her on amazing holidays, they do all sorts of activities
and often show up when I can't.

I don't want to have a pity party, but I'm becoming increasingly aware
that I have given myself an impossible workload.
And so I'm working to make a few really big changes
so that I can get through this patch alive. 

It turns out three years is quite a long time when you under it so to speak,
I know that in a few years I will look back and it will seem but a moment.
So with this in mind, I am planning some practical changes in the next few months.
In the meantime, I'm loving for both the fact that Annie's dad sends me photos of her having a truly
wonderful time when he has her, and also I'm working hard to make thing work out better for us.


  1. It’s such a good thing to realize what we can handle and what needs to change. Sometimes it takes such a long time figuring out a new balance. Loves to you!

  2. I'm a long time reader of your blog, but have never commented. You are one brave lady. Thanks for sharing your heart and the realities of your life. I hope it helps you process things by writing them down, just as it helps us who read your words. Love and blessings. xx

  3. Deb... it is a massive load you carry. I hope that you have all the kind of wisdom and courage and clarity you need to make the best decisions for this season. Love you. Here to chat if you want (a very noisy) sounding board. xxxx


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