She has seen us in good times and in bad. When the kids have been good and when they have been feral savages. We always try and have something nice for tea on monday nights and also to have enough for Nana to take some home for another night or two. We joke that we only eat dinners on Monday nights because Nana is coming, she worries that it's too much work to have her, whereas actually one more doesn't really make any difference to cooking dinner. We know all about her weekly routine, the "girls" (average age 90) she spends time with and all about her sister Jean in the rest home. It's a good plan. All our children have grown up with this plan and Nana is just part of our lives.
Last Monday night Nana was running late (as she does) and a bit flustered, but she enjoyed her dinner and told us a funny story about her uncle. We all laughed and she laughed with us and then she took a pottle with enough soup for four dinners and went home. That night she had a heart attack but didn't ring us till 8am the next morning to ask for help. She spent a few days in hospital and now is recuperating at the cousins house.
Today is Monday again, and as I go about my Monday afternoon duties, I can't help reflect to last week and how we nearly lost her. I'm so so glad that we have been working on our relationship for so long. It's not about the fancy events and flash dinners, it's about her being a part of our family. It's about her at the table with us, sharing our lives together. Somehow it doesn't feel like Monday today, because Nana is not coming for dinner.
But I'm so grateful for all those small amounts of time that have added up to a big part of our lives, without me realising it, she has become a part of our family that whatever happens (nana is 90) can not be taken away from us. Nana Robbie has been woven firmly into our family tradition and we will always have that. She's not just a dithery old lady for special occasions, she's a dear and greatly loved family member.
Aren't we just so blessed?
Do you have a relationship you've had to work hard at?
Or does this post remind you of someone you want to build a bridge with??
I'd love to hear....